Telling your friends and family the big news about your pregnancy can be a joyous occassion or a nightmare, depending on your situation. Theresa from Ohio asked when I announced the big news to the people who mattered most. Of course, it's all dependent on how worried you are about miscarriage risks and your current situation. The following article will lay out some advice on when to announce the big news!
With my first pregnancy, I was shocked. I had a feeling I was pregnant by the sudden urge to take a pregnancy test after feeling a little BLAH. I took an over the counter (OTC) pregnancy test in the morning before work. There was a VERY faint pink line so I chalked it up to nothing. I left work early that day and on my way home, I stopped and picked up two electronic pregnancy tests to be sure. I'll never forget the moment. It was 1300 and I peed on one of the tests. Fifteen minutes later I was crying on the bathroom floor... literally beside myself.
I was single, it was a one off, and I certainly wasn't expecting to be pregnant. I immediately called my mother and my best friend Andy to let them know what was going on. Of course, they knew my situation so the first question was "Are you going to keep it?" The thought never crossed my mind, of course I was going to keep it.
After a positive blood test result, I announced the pregnancy to my immediate family. They were actually very supportive and thrilled about the news. 10 months and four days later I birthed Matilda Sue, the most beautiful thing I have ever seen on the face of the planet. Now I'm very close with my family so announcing it wasn't difficult for me. If you're in a similar situation where things are unplanned and you're not married... tread lightly. Unless you're debating other options, like abortion or adoption, you may want to make the announcement before the first trimester is over.
I know a lot of mother's wait until after the first 12 weeks because the risk of miscarriage goes down drastically. I didn't want to wait. Of course that choice is up to you.
With my second pregnancy (the one I'm in the home stretch of!) I didn't find out until 9 weeks into it. My family actually had an idea I got knocked up again. At this point I was married and things were a lot different than a year ago. (I move fast, but honestly I love the guy!!!) He told me to take a test and I did. It was positive. I threw the test at him as he was changing Matilda and he literally did laps around the house in excitement.
How did I tell my family? Well first I texted my sister the positive pregnancy test and she FREAKED OUT (In a good way). Then I called my parents and let them know. We didn't want to wait until the 12 week mark, so shortly after we let immediate family know, friends found out and eventually facebook too!
Here are a few pointers for announcing your pregnancy and what to remember:
1. Waiting until after the first trimester is normal. As I stated before, most couples, mothers, whatever, wait until the first 12 weeks is over because the miscarriage rate goes down drastically. Don't feel obligated to wait that long. Being pregnant is an exciting time. Enjoy it (even if it is tough) and scream it at the top of a mountain for everyone to hear. It's your baby and body and your choice. Sing it sister!!! Whenever and however you choose!
2. TOTALLY wait until you have a positive blood test result from a doctor. There is a possibility of a false positive (although rare) on home pregnancy tests. You also have the ability to show HGC in the urine stream, but aren't actually pregnant. Sometimes women lose the baby before anything can even form. Waiting until that first positive blood test is crucial.
3. Announcing after the first ultrasound is a good middle timeframe. Generally, after a positive blood test, you get your first ultrasound around 4-8 weeks. (Depending on when you find out of course). This is generally a safe time to let friends and family know what's going on. There is positive confirmation you're growing a life and you get to physically see what's going on. The ultrasound also usually occurs before that 12 week time frame, so if you're anxious to let people know like I was, it's a good time to announce the big news.
4. Announcing while single can be difficult. I'm going to be creating a totally separate post for this topic because it's a difficult situation to be in. People are nosey and ask question that don't need to be asked. Just remember it's your body and your choice, not theirs. Answer any questions if you want to, but don't feel obligated. You can always chime in with "I'm the Dad" when people are being jerks.
5. Come up with a fun pregnancy announcement idea. There are tons of ideas on the web on how you can announce your pregnancy and gender reveal. (there will be a separate post on these topics as well!) Be creative if you'd like. One of my friends got married and her wedding cake color was the gender. Her and her husband didn't know what the gender was before doing their wedding cake cutting. I thought it was super cute and clever.
No matter what or how you decide to announce your pregnancy, PLEASE REMEMBER, it's YOUR body and YOUR choice. Who cares what other people are thinking. You are creating life in your body and making the ULTIMATE SACRIFICE. You are strong. Screw all those meanies.
So tell me ladies. How long after you found out you were pregnant did you announce it? Answer in the comments below!!!
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A mother of two with one on the way. Full time fire protection engineer at a nuclear plant. Loving wife to an amazing husband. Somehow I manage to stay sane. I'm here to help you!!
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